Dealing With Grief
Summer seems to be going by so fast. With Fall just around the corner, it’s a perfect time to plan your Pet Memorial Garden. I just love the idea of planning this garden together, with other members of the family, to aid in the healing process. It can be as small as a single Pet Memorial Garden Stone, or more elaborate, with flowers, trees, and perhaps even a Memorial Wind Chime.
Things to consider when creating your Pet Memorial Garden are:
Location: Obviously, that depends on the areas surrounding your house. Is there a tree in your yard? If so, that’s a beautiful place (as pictured above). Maybe just adding a Memorial Garden Stone to an existing garden would work out just fine. Or, if you want something more elaborate, find a larger area (preferably that you can see from your house) and plant a variety of plants and flowers.
Plants: Shade, sun and temperature are important to consider. Also, the time you would like to invest in the maintenance of this special garden should also be considered. Do you want to plant annuals every year, or are you looking for a more carefree design?
What kind of flowers/plants should you plant? If you would like to commemorate your pet’s birth date or date that your pet passed, here are a few ideas of flowers representing each month:
January – Carnation
February – Violet, Primrose
March – Daffodil, Violet
April – Daisy
May – Lily of the Valley
June – Rose
July – Larkspur, Water Lily, Sweet Pea
August – Gladiolus
September – Asper
October – Calendula, Dahlia
November – Chrysanthemum
December – Holly, Poinsettia
Pet Memorial Garden Stone: There are so many Memorial Garden Stone ideas and many available both locally on online. These stones can be personalized either with a plaque or by having it engraved. If you happen to have your pet’s cremains, a beautiful Urn Pet Memorial Garden Stone would be perfect. Another idea, many craft stores have kits that can help you create your very own Memorial Stone. This is most specifically a great idea for any child who is dealing with the loss of their pet.
Lastly, and most importantly, keep your pet’s personality in mind. This Pet Memorial Garden should reflect the memory of your precious pet.
Do you have a Memorial Garden you can share. Please feel free to post pictures!
For many of us, Cupid’s Arrow is leaving a different kind of mark on our hearts this Valentine’s Day. Of all the holidays, Valentine’s Day can be the most difficult when dealing with the grief from the loss of a loved one.
This year we would like to reach out to those who are dealing with loss due to the passing of their life’s partner or, sometimes just as difficult, loss due to divorce. Most of us have felt the sting of Valentine’s Day at least once in our lifetime. We realize that there was nothing anyone could say or do; it was simply a very difficult day.
This year, let’s just send a “hug” to someone in need.
Please join us on our Facebook Page as we share hugs this Valentine’s Day. For every hug you send, the recipient’s name will be entered into a drawing to receive a free “Hugs” necklace courtesy of Remember Me.
Even if your facebook friend doesn’t win the above “Hugging Heart” inspirational necklace, she will have received the free gift of a “hug” which will mean the world to her. This year, let’s replace Cupid’s Arrow with just a simple “hug” to let them know you care.
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If you are looking for Inspirational Jewelry, Christian Jewelry, or Religious Jewelry please visit our website. We offer a variety of necklaces in all price ranges.
I am incredibly blessed to have my Mom in my life. I am at the age in my own life where many of my friends are dealing with the Loss of a Mother. I can’t begin to imagine the emptiness one must feel when they are dealing with this type of loss. A mother and daughter bond can be incredibly strong and a mother’s absence so painfully felt. Thankfully, treasured memories are able to keep that bond alive.
Remember Me Gift Boutique was created in an effort to offer sympathy gifts that are unique and meaningful gifts for those grieving. I believe this piece of remembrance jewelry is something that any daughter would be proud to wear and a sympathy gift that will be extremely meaningful.
The above photo has been shared many times on Pinterest. We are so pleased we are able to help comfort those who miss their moms!
We now have a new line of exclusive jewelry which can be found on our Etsy Shop – Handmade By Remember Me.
There are many resources available through Facebook that offer hope, inspiration, and healing during the grieving process. Please feel free to visit our Facebook Page.
For those of you who have lost a child this year, our hearts are extremely heavy for you this upcoming Mother’s Day. What has historically been a day of celebration, has changed for you this year. To recognize your pain and to bring a little bit of memorial happiness to you this Mother’s Day 2013, we are holding a drawing to give away one of the above Bereavement Necklaces (your choice).
If you currently have a Facebook account, simply “like” our page Remember Me and message us with the name of your child (please type Child – (name) in the message box). You will automatically be entered into our drawing to be held on Saturday, May 11, 2013. Realizing that we are unable to offer this necklace to everyone (how we wish we could), you will qualify for a free timeline facebook cover for you to display on your page for Mother’s Day. Your timeline cover will be posted on our page also on Saturday.
If you do not have a Facebook account, you are not forgotten. Simply contact us with your child’s name, and you will be entered into the drawing.
We continue to care deeply for those who are grieving. As always, if we can do anything to help you during the grieving process, please reach out to us.
Warmest Regards and Blessings,
*** EVEN THOUGH THIS CONTEST IS OVER, WE STILL WOULD LOVE TO DESIGN A CUSTOM FACEBOOK TIMELINE COVER FOR YOU!
Remember Me Gift Boutique recognizes that Mother’s Day might not be a day of celebration for some of you. The loss of a mother can certainly bring some sadness on this day. We would like to do what we can to help you get through Mother’s Day this year – “Because We Care”.
This beautiful, Hand Stamped Bereavement Necklace will be given away this Mother’s Day, 2013. We offer two ways to enter this giveaway.
If you currently have a Facebook account, visit our page Remember Me and “like” our page. Then message us with the name of your mother who has passed away (please type Mother – (name) in the message box), and you will be entered into our drawing to be held on Saturday. Also, you will automatically qualify to receive a free facebook timeline cover to post on your page for Mother’s Day. Your timeline cover will be posted on our page Saturday night:
If you do not have a facebook account, please just contact us with the name of your Mother and you will also be added to our drawing.
We truly do care for those of you who are grieving. As always, please let us know if there is anything we can do to help you during the grieving process.
Warmest Regards and Blessings,
Remember Me Gift Boutique
** THIS GIVEAWAY IS OVER. CONTACT US IF YOU WOULD LIKE A CUSTOM TIMELINE COVER IN REMEMBRANCE OF YOUR MOM
Spring is in the air, and this time each year, I think of those who are grieving and anticipating the hope that only Spring can bring! I always encourage anyone who has lost a loved one, or a treasured pet, to consider creating a Memorial Garden in their backyard. This is not only a great idea for just about anyone, but children can find so much peace having their own space to reflect on their memories. Children also love coming up with ideas and actually participating in the process of planting a Memorial Garden.
Memorial Garden Stones come in many different shapes, sizes and price ranges. They can be personalized with a name or sentiment. These Memorial Garden Stones can be added to an existing garden or landscape creating a subtle sentiment. Also, Memorial Garden Benches are becoming increasingly popular as they are incredibly functional and can be engraved with a personal sentiment.
Personalized Memorial Wind Chimes offer a beautiful sound along with an inscribed personal message. As with the memorial stones, these can also be added to an existing garden or are well suited to hang on a front or back porch. Memorial Wind Chimes are my personal favorite, as I’m hard pressed to come up with a more soothing memorial.
A Memorial Garden is not complete without beautiful flowers. Below is a list of the different flowers and their meaning (those best suited for a memorial garden):
Aracia – eternal love
Aloe – grief
Anemone – resurrection
Aster – God’s grace, love, blessings
Balm – sympathy
Bellflower – “thinking of you”
Cypress – mourning, sorrow
Daffodil – resurrection
Forget-me-nots – memories
Fuchsia – harmony, healing for those who grieve, angels
Geranium – comfort
Honeysuckle – devoted affection, bonds of love
Impatiens – patience, steadfastness, loving-kindness
Jasmine – peace, goodwill, and healing
Lavender – devotionLily – faith, grace, and spiritual healing
Marigold – pain and grief
Peonies – thoughts of the past, memories
Poppies – eternal sleep, consolation
Tulips – faith, hope, and charity
Verbena – peace
Violets – shyness, humility, quiet joy, tender thoughts, gentle love
Rosemary – remembrance
Thyme – peace
White Lilac – youthful innocence, memories
I hope you found some inspiration to get started on your Memorial Garden this spring!
While love is in the air and cupid’s arrow is in full swing, Valentine’s Day can be such a painful holiday for so many who are dealing with the grief of losing their spouse. It just doesn’t seem fair that so many are celebrating their love, while others are mourning their loss on this day, as well as many other holidays past and yet to come.
It is incredibly important to have a “plan” for Valentine’s Day. Keeping in mind that everyone grieves differently and handles loss in their own way, the following are just a few ideas to help make this day a bit more tolerable:
1. Plan to avoid restaurants and social gathering places that might make you feel uncomfortable or lonely. If it’s possible to get together with some friends or family members, try to spend your time at their home or yours.
2. Refocus your attention. Valentine’s Day is about love, and there are so many ways to express that love. Why not have a candlelight dinner with your kids. Just imagine the laughter that will evoke. Or if you have a dog, find a recipe for some pet friendly goodies and spoil your pet. Be creative. This will take your mind off of your feelings of loss.
3. Perhaps you would like to reflect on your loved one. There’s nothing wrong with that. Start a journal and write down your thoughts. Write about some special memories that you have from past Valentine’s Days together. Hold on to those treasured memories as they can bring you great comfort. This could be a special time of reflection for you.
If you have struggled in the past on Valentine’s Day, please feel free to share how you were able to cope… this could really help someone today.
Finding a Sympathy Gift for someone who has lost a loved one, or searching for the perfect Memorial Gift Idea for yourself, takes some time. Often we desire to find something that is meaningful and personal. Remember Me Gift Boutique desires to offer gifts that aid in the healing process and also serve as a beautiful memorial item.
One of our favorite recommendations is our Personalized Wind Chimes. We offer many different options for personalization from adding a photo to displaying an Inspirational Bible Verse Quote. The beautiful sound of these Personalized Wind Chimes will bring much comfort to those grieving. With each gentle breeze, our loved one’s memory will come to mind.
What is your initial thought when you learn that a family member or friend is dealing with the loss of a loved one? Is it calling your local florist to send flowers? Searching for the perfect Memorial Gift Ideas? Do you struggle with what to say or do?
When my family was dealing with a traumatic death, the flowers, meals, and cards were generously flooding our home. While we appreciated every gesture, there was one that stood out. It wasn’t a monetary sympathy gift, a delicious meal, or a meaningful card. It was simply an act of kindness… by a 16 year old high school student.
She appeared the day of my brother’s funeral. We didn’t know her and had no idea of her connection with my brother. She was just there. People were gathering at our home prior to the funeral. Meals were placed on the kitchen counter, half empty cups where scattered all over the house, and it was very chaotic, to say the least. As we were leaving for the funeral, this young lady asked if she could stay behind to “clean up the mess”. While we encouraged her to go to the funeral, she declined.
While we were mourning our loss, she was doing something different; something unexpected. When we returned to our home, we were greeted by the smell of freshly brewed coffee. All the casseroles were heated and placed, ever so beautifully, in our kitchen. Every left behind cup was gone. Each pillow was fluffed and placed warmly on our sofa. The house was comforting and inviting.
The memory of this moment still stings my eyes. As I look back on this day, I do not recall if she was told how much she was appreciated… if she truly understood the impact her act of compassion had our family. Did her parents know what an amazing young lady they had raised?
How can we help those grieving? Please share your stories to enlighten those who are searching for ways to help or words to say.
God Bless You!